LIFE AS A SINGLE MOTHER!
I never dreamt of having children before marriage. I never saw me taking responsibility of a child all alone. The dream I always had was me, my husband and my children. Life decides and imposes on us sometimes.
Five years back in my life, I met a young man that now is my baby Daddy. All my thoughts were to be married and then have my children but I rather got pregnant and life decided to permit me to take full responsibility of this child.
Everyone has got the emotional needs, financial needs and the physical needs. One either need one or two or the three of them. I lacked them all. That is not to say I wasn’t strong enough. I was but circumstances overshadowed me and so I had to struggle to be back on track.
I chose to keep the baby when the father decided to stay away for an unknown reason. This part of my life hardened me. It made me reconsider my decisions. It thought me patience. It made me mature.
I chose to look at the positive side of my life and build myself. I could identify myself, developed myself and still in the growing business. I say, Life is what you choose and how you deal with it. I redirected my life! I never permitted people to feel sorry for me because I didn’t deserve it.
Being a single mother is an opportunity for me to better my life. Remember, this part of my life gave me the courage to start my show called The Wo_manshow which targets on single mothers. Is this not a positive thing?
I fought myself to be emotionally stable. I fought to be financially responsible. I built my life well enough to suit the needs of my child. I sacrificed a lot to get me up the ladder. Mind you, I did all these for myself not for my child. I realized that, if my life improves, the life of my son automatically improves too. So I focused on myself and built it.
I’m not of disadvantaged because I’m a single mother. It does not make me less of a person. It rather is an advantage for me and I am a proud mother.
By Akua Ntiwaa